tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post5789139408380612163..comments2023-06-02T09:21:43.938-05:00Comments on IMHO (In My Humble Opinion): Smart Woman: Dr. Debra Holland, psychologistTJ Bennetthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08724851315229357354noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-59250745936615228352010-02-11T09:20:13.120-06:002010-02-11T09:20:13.120-06:00I loved the post, and I also loved reading the com...I loved the post, and I also loved reading the comments. I know some men do read romance and enjoy it as well but not my husband who hardly reads at all.<br /><br />Please enter me for this really good giveaway.Mysticahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10941269615559681014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-46733475942151833042010-02-11T00:40:40.724-06:002010-02-11T00:40:40.724-06:00Great post and some great authors were mentioned!
...Great post and some great authors were mentioned!<br /><br />Please enter me in the contest and good luck everyone!Paranormal and Romantic Suspense Reviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05160068916776221551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-80570059271950384152010-02-10T23:19:24.810-06:002010-02-10T23:19:24.810-06:00Love Suzanne Brockmann's books. We do a lot o...Love Suzanne Brockmann's books. We do a lot of audio books at our house. My husband doesn't have time to read. I work at a small county library and it is one more way to read as many books as I can to familiarize myself with as many authors as possible. At first, I gave him just the mysteries (Patterson, Hillerman, Parker, etc.) but I started sending some of the romances his way. At librarypatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-84287896281235627102010-02-10T22:21:02.756-06:002010-02-10T22:21:02.756-06:00Hi everyone!
I really enjoyed reading this post.
...Hi everyone!<br /><br />I really enjoyed reading this post.<br />I know a few men who read romantic suspense novels. And some who read sexy romance novels! Most men just don't talk about it much.<br /><br />And please enter me in this contest! The books that are being given away look GREAT!!<br /><br />Sandra :)Sandra Lynnenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-48289767349393235492010-02-10T22:16:02.800-06:002010-02-10T22:16:02.800-06:00Hmm. I'm not sure about what type of romance ...Hmm. I'm not sure about what type of romance to offer my DH, as the type of reading material he usually prefers is non-fiction...*g* a how-to manual? he'll be insulted!M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07498466631016466048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-62736257906062464992010-02-10T19:03:37.838-06:002010-02-10T19:03:37.838-06:00I tried this tactic with my husband, giving him Na...I tried this tactic with my husband, giving him <i>Naked in Death</i> to read, because I thought he would enjoy the futuristic stuff. As it turned out, he thought it was dumb. :-\ But he did like the book, except the sex scenes. Silly boy. ;-) -- willafulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-22846310024905726392010-02-10T16:38:04.995-06:002010-02-10T16:38:04.995-06:00I do try to pass on my books, either someone I kno...I do try to pass on my books, either someone I know or through donating them. The heroines I most enjoy have definitely had some tough times in their lives and worked hard to get through them.Maureenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16392692656456938856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-85074182608737672092010-02-10T15:25:31.373-06:002010-02-10T15:25:31.373-06:00I know there are many men out there who read roman...I know there are many men out there who read romance, but I don't personally know any(or maybe I just don't know that they do.) I do know people who read suspense novels that have romantic elements in the story.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13040629694490652973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-67935025223764693832010-02-10T14:42:26.487-06:002010-02-10T14:42:26.487-06:00Oops that about is supposed to be above. Multitask...Oops that about is supposed to be above. Multitasking. :)Debra Hollandnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-68726027485399544012010-02-10T14:41:16.014-06:002010-02-10T14:41:16.014-06:00That anonymous person about is me, Dr. Debra. Must...That anonymous person about is me, Dr. Debra. Must have pressed the wrong button. But if it happens again...<br /><br />Tai Shan,<br /><br />I recommend, Women Who Love Too Much, by Susan Forward. Also, Co-Dependent No More, by Melody Beattie.<br /><br />Thanks everyone for all your great comments.Debra Hollandnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-26851372029206693072010-02-10T14:15:14.098-06:002010-02-10T14:15:14.098-06:00Dr. Debra:
I so entirely agree with your comment ...Dr. Debra:<br /><br />I so entirely agree with your comment regarding how the exchange of books can help deepen relationships. And given that all romance is about relationship, especially relationship under pressure, the possibilities for discussion are nearly endless. For my money, whether it be romance, or mystery, or whatever genre, if it provides a means to enhance understanding and Barbara Sisselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493966514006846063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-89249826438028640712010-02-10T13:37:26.930-06:002010-02-10T13:37:26.930-06:00The Tour Manager reads the same books over and ove...The Tour Manager reads the same books over and over. All are fantasy, with the exception of Jim Butcher's books. I often wonder why he doesn't want to read something new. Must be comfort in an old friend. <br /><br />No need to enter me, ladies. I'm dropping in to let you know I've posted about this at Win a Book.Susan Helene Gottfriedhttp://winabook.westofmars.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-55521046355322013792010-02-10T13:09:23.264-06:002010-02-10T13:09:23.264-06:00My husband doesn't read except for a few compu...My husband doesn't read except for a few computer mag. I do have a friend guy and he reads all the time. I sometimes send him some paranormals and science fiction and suspense books and he is thrilled to get them. Yes they are romance but there is always more then just romance in a story.<br /><br />lead[at]hotsheet[dot]comVirginiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06924888528166831610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-54179971918568823342010-02-10T12:48:19.065-06:002010-02-10T12:48:19.065-06:00Thank you, Debra! What a great post.
I think the...Thank you, Debra! What a great post. <br /><br />I think there are more guys out there than we think who are interested in romance. While visiting my parents for Christmas a couple of years ago, I saw a romance/chick-lit in my brother's suitcase! I was shocked, and I thought it was awesome. <br /><br />I'm going to try sharing books more often and see what happens!Ginanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-84569981317540001602010-02-10T12:40:42.039-06:002010-02-10T12:40:42.039-06:00OK, here goes. I'm a guy and I read and write ...OK, here goes. I'm a guy and I read and write romance. (ff&p) Got turned on to romance by Roberta Gellis back in the late 70s. She is, in my opinion, one of the great storytellers. It was anything but what I expected. More than enough action and danger expertly woven into the central story of two people forging a relationship, sometimes against their own preconceptions.<br /><br />Not to Barthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17247446426545821292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-72212829277606537032010-02-10T12:30:51.354-06:002010-02-10T12:30:51.354-06:00I agree that certain romance genres would be more ...I agree that certain romance genres would be more appealing to men than others. And the Troubleshooters series is a good pick as are the scifi and fantasy authors you mentioned.<br /><br />And lending books to any of my friends is how I convert them. There's so many good books out there that some get lost in the shuffle. So I'm always happy to point people to new, good reads.<br /><br The Scarf Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04909550720063326180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-7537701812541917682010-02-10T11:53:42.741-06:002010-02-10T11:53:42.741-06:00Two partners who are equal and grow and compliment...Two partners who are equal and grow and compliment each other is what I get when I read a well written romance. After 41 years of a successful romantic marriage, I know a good book when I read one. Some of the best have been romances.<br /><br />Thank you romance authors!Neringahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02621637429259896651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-68341694470118925402010-02-10T11:34:13.927-06:002010-02-10T11:34:13.927-06:00Hi Dr. Debra (I love using the first name with the...Hi Dr. Debra (I love using the first name with the Dr; hope you don't mind!)<br /><br />Thanks to TJ for having you; I really enjoyed your post. I wanted to comment on this statement that you made: 'most heroes in romance novels are idealized versions of “real” men.'<br /><br />I find this to be true, which, on some levels, might make it hard for the real men in our lives to live up Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-15079740223579069622010-02-10T11:29:17.095-06:002010-02-10T11:29:17.095-06:00I know "hot" romances are popular nowada...I know "hot" romances are popular nowadays. I do have to confess to enjoying traditional romances that aren't explicit. I often skip or skim the sex scenes because for me, they aren't necessary. But I know that's the favorite part for many readers. You can enjoy reading a romance either way and also recommending them to others, especially, like Jane says, if you let the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-46583951061906669772010-02-10T11:21:48.366-06:002010-02-10T11:21:48.366-06:00I think men could become better lovers just by rea...I think men could become better lovers just by reading some sex scenes in romances. One thing to try... put a Post It note on a favorite scene. Then give him the book and ask if he'd be willing to role play it with you. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-88641356363040290652010-02-10T10:55:23.352-06:002010-02-10T10:55:23.352-06:00Dr. Debra,
I loved your take on/defense of romance...Dr. Debra,<br />I loved your take on/defense of romance. I think so many readers, male and female, are attracted to the relationship arcs in books, movies, and TV series of all genres - people who would never admit to loving romance. Many readers come to romance through the "other" part of the plot, whether its Western historical, suspense, paranormal, or some other area. I know I hear Colleen Thompsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18398127184158098008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-65672727868572473602010-02-10T10:31:39.483-06:002010-02-10T10:31:39.483-06:00Thank you, both, for the feisty defense of romance...Thank you, both, for the feisty defense of romance, and your humorous and creative take on how to gain converts!Lisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13315265091119634416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15221076.post-8226834202782300882010-02-10T10:29:41.968-06:002010-02-10T10:29:41.968-06:00Good Morning Debra!
My husband is a hoot, he does...Good Morning Debra!<br /><br />My husband is a hoot, he doesnt come right out and read romance novels, but he will pick up whatever one is sitting on my table, that I am currently reading and open it to the middle and start reading for a few chapters. I like to watch his reaction. Usually he just shakes his head and sets it down. I get a good laugh out of it. <br /><br />I have always passed Jane Lnoreply@blogger.com